Way to go girl!

Thumbs up!

mwm – Thank you. And yes, I completely agree, we are inundated with those ’shoulds.’ When we live trying to fulfill those shoulds, we live for someone other than ourselves and so will never be whole. It is when we are able to transmute those shoulds into ‘I want’ or ‘I need’ and concentrate on ourselves and our Self that we reclaim our lives as our own.

Sue Ann – I meant the Yoda comment in the best possible way! I see you functioning at a level of awareness and consciousness that I am working toward while also valuing and honoring where I am. Every time I go to your site and read your words and “get” them, I pat myself on the back. After all, how can one break down the concept of Oneness into divided pieces to make it easier to understand to those who are not fully embracing that Oneness yet without detracting from the beauty and wholeness of Unity? And yet, you have helped me in many ways to more fully grasp this idea, this Truth.

What you have said about conditional and unconditional love is awesome. I get that! And if our love is to be unconditional, then we can put no conditions on it as to who it is for, who receives it. That would return it to being conditional. Just as we cannot only choose some people to be One with, we recognize our Oneness with all.

If I don’t know how to emotionally nurture myself, I won’t have any nurturing to express. All I will do is run around enabling emotional dependencies just like I insist and demand others do for me. Turning what once was just a virus of mind, into a sexual energy virus, too.

and I don’t mean to be so confusing, really I don’t. It’s because of what I’ve got in my head. LOL I’ve got Unity awareness in my head and it makes things a bit ‘odd’. It makes communications a challenge. I’m trying though!

“concrete” to me means something thoroughly mixed up and set, that’s full of air holes.

What {{Mother wintermoon}} has said about a ‘people pleasing disease’ is true and, it’s those of us who have had it, that are the gullible dupes.

The NEED to please others, is an emotional NEED. It is an emotional insecurity issue: psychological. This NEED is a result of us lacking in being Self Nurturing in the images and ideas we entertain about ourselves and the relationship we imagine we have with life and the rest of the world. It is a relationship pattern of dis-ease, just like {{Mother wintermoon}} said.

And the cure for it, it to address its cause, which are ideas within us.

The very idea of “imperfection” is a result of Conditional Love. Which really ins’t love at all, it’s NEED.

REAL Love, GENUINE Love, extends itself FREELY, because it is JOYOUS to do so.

Conditional Love barters, for the fulfillment of conditions, in order for Love (or Acceptance) to be extended. This is not Love; this is prostitution.

It’s cause is a virus. A consciousness virus. A virus of mind. And is cured the moment we realize that our emotions are ours and, claim Creative Ownership.

Our Perfectionist tendencies are fueled by FEAR of being ‘imperfect’. And the whole IDEA itself, rests on Love upon Condition.

It is by my choice to live by a spiritual standard. That means I have a different set of values. I see our errors as opportunities to discover and express the Divinity within us. I respond to Imperfection by being Understanding, Embracing, Accepting, Tolerant, Patient and Forgiving.

And I started practicing this attitude on my self, first.

“I am made Perfect, as I was Created to BE, by and through, embracing my own imperfections.” Because in order to do it, I had to reach in and discover the Presence within my own Heart.

Our culture and society infects women with the ‘people pleasing disease.’ We are inundated with gender-based “shoulds.” It makes it hard for us to learn to just be. We are always trying to be something, something to someone, or something to everyone.

As women, it is difficult for us to just be, yet it’s essential to our well-being.

Your words are the inspiration and the elucidation.