Indeed, remembering why I am working through these things is definitely a good thing to keep in mind! Love back to you, Tehlanna!

Thank you for the healing, Grace Hugs to you, lady!

I love what the previous poster said. I would only say thatit might help to write everything down in a journal. Just take a topic and have at it without editing or judging or stiffling yourself. Move to the next and the next. Bounce back and forth. Get it all out THERE, and see if that helps to bring some peace in HERE. This is how I handle my stuff. I write. And write. And write.

Then I just sit with what I’ve written – like after a purging – and see what comes up. It might help to do what Byron Katie suggests, and which I use to help manage my crap: Decide what is YOURS, what is THEIRS and what is GODDS.

The only thing you need to focus on, then, is 1/3 of the stuff.

I always start with forgiveness, too. Do I need to ask someone to forgive me? Do I need to forgive someone? Making amends is a powerful tool of transformation. Then, it’s all about letting it go. Letting go and surrendering.

And then, just do whatever you can…even just a baby step in one ‘good’ direction…towards your spiritual goal(s).

Remember – you are an eternal being. We all are. And for that reason, we never get it all ‘done’, and we can’t make a mistake.

hugs, Aerolin. Sending you healing tonight.

What works for me is to focus on one thing at a time, and give it my full attention until I am either done dealing with it, or I don’t find it gross anymore. When you have this vast array of unpleasant in front of you, it’s easy to lean yourself way back from the table and get overwhelmed by how much you have to deal with. Instead, pick one thing and get real close to it, until you can see nothing but that one thing. It helps me to remember why I’m doing it; if you can keep that goal right in the fore of your brain while you’re choking down those nasty-ass peas, it will make them easier to swallow because you will remember that eating the yucky thing will get you closer to your goal.

I had counseling sessions with a child psychologist as a little girl, and we worked with exposure therapy before it was really understood or widely used, especially with very young children. What we did with the issues I was facing was to immerse me in them and really bring them out into the light, rather than try to tuck them away or work “around” them. Try that with your gross food. Pick one, set the others aside, and dig in with both hands. Throw up afterwards if you have to, sometimes that helps too.

Love to you, girl.